I actually came across Dr. Eric Thomas (ET) when he was on Gary Vaynerchuk’s show a year or two ago. This dude is fiya. He’s persuasive, he’s trustworthy, he’s captivating and energetic, and… well, he’s married so that’s all I have to say about him. Ha!
I am a huge Lewis Howes fan. You may have already seen that I posted his interview with Gabby Reece. I get the notifications to my phone whenever he posts a new video and days like today, I have the chance to scroll through and see what I’ve missed. He’s a great interviewer (interviewers who don’t listen is one of my pet peeves) and easy on the eyes. Love his podcast.
This is a fantastic video for moms who are positioning themselves for the next level of achievement. ET goes in deep to lay out a pattern for HOW to think as you’re planning and preparing for your next big thing, and what to do when you’ve accomplished it.
I gotta be honest: I didn’t know Gabby Reece from girl working the fries when I came across this video a week or two ago. I just like watching Lewis Howes interviews (seems like he’s ACTUALLY LISTENING, not just trying to remember his next question), and YouTube recommends his videos.
I was intrigued by the title of this particular video though. Relationship Success through Self-Worth. Hmmm. Not self-confidence. Not fake it till you make it. Gabby Reece was offering help on self-worth. I imagined the entire video would be about sports.
I was wrong.
Who is Gabby Reece? And Did She Really Say Wives Should Submit to Their Husbands?
Gabrielle Reece is probably most well-known for her modeling career in the 1990s followed by her very successful professional volleyball career. She is a wife, mother, serial entrepreneur, pro athlete, and a woman who understands – to some extent – marriage roles.
In this video, and other places in the media, she speaks candidly about being married to big wave surfer Laird Hamilton and the need for wives to have enough strength to make room for their husbands to be husbands by just being softer, more nurturing and submissive.
Whaaaaaa? Who submits anymore?
Besides the fact that you get to look at Lewis Howes for an hour, Gabrielle Reece offers wisdom, a handful of laughs, and some thought-provoking moments for women who are still trying to reconcile who you are with how you can best serve your family as a woman.
I’ve been following him for years and one of the reasons I continue to tune in to what he does is because his advice is actionable. You want to feel more powerful, stand like this.
You want a better relationship, you have to bring that passion and energy back to your relationship by behaving toward him the way you did when you guys first fell in love. You want to make a billion dollars, you have to get painfully honest about what it’s going to take to make it and whether or not you’re willing to make the sacrifices you need to pursue that level of entrepreneurship. Because it’s going to cost.
The gurus and talking heads like to make blanket statements about what you should do to make your life better and at some point, their suggestions go in one ear and other the other because they are often missing one important element: Strategy.
Raise Your Standards In Real Life
I heard Tony say, “Raise your standards” and I thought, “Awesome! I’m on it! Now, how do I do it, for real?”
There’s a simple enough explanation. The definition of raising your standard is simply to turn your “should” into “must. I get that. There’s a certain amount of money that I MUST earn every month to meet the financial obligations of our household. But, since saving is important as well, there’s another MUST on top of that MUST because I also want to live without the worry of not being able to cover an emergency expense should one pop up (and they always do). So, in order to satisfy that need, I MUST make a certain amount more.
I think most people can relate to having financial needs and getting in income that meets those very important needs. Well, the same principal applies to everything else in life. In order to not feel like total crap everyday, I have to exercise regularly and make sure there’s more produce and leafy greens in my diet than coffee, meat and chocolate. Because with a toddler, a kindergartener, and a high school senior, I really can’t afford to be sick or feel crappy.
I don’t think standards are inherent. I think you create them as you go and they change and evolve as you do.
I came across the Monica Lewinsky TED Talk yesterday as I was sitting at the light in my car, on the hunt for Tony Robbins. I was feeling low-energy and Tony always pumps me up. I had been wondering about Monica Lewinsky, just in passing. I wasn’t curious enough to do an online search, but she crossed my mind a handful of times and I wondered what was going on with her. So, I was thrilled, if not a little apprehensive about watching this video.
There’s value in a Monica Lewinsky TED Talk on shame
I think Ms. Lewinsky offers a jarring and insightful perspective on this culture of cruelty we’ve created. Cruelty for the sake of cruelty. Vicarious cruelty in the form of memes and status updates so we share in the shaming, but feel somehow justified as observers. Of course, Ms. Lewinsky’s unique perspective stems from her past, which makes the video worth watching, even if only to remind us that we, and those around us, are human.
Beware: There’s heartbreak in her words when she talked about her mom’s response to Matthew Clementi’s death. It would do us all some good to reconnect with our ability to feel and express compassion and empathy.